Image via WikipediaSo I've heard bits and pieces of a new step being added to the Haitian adoption process. Really?!?!
The rumors have been swirling for the past month or two....
The first version said that the adoptive dad had to go to court in Haiti and appear before a judge to state that he was aware of the adoption, and really wanted to adopt the child(ren). Really?!?!
The second-third and fourth versions said both adoptive parents had to appear in person and confirm their desire to adopt. Really?!?!
That does appear to be the case, at least at the moment. I am aware of several families that are in Haiti right now, due to this new requirement. I hope to learn more after they return to the States.
Because we are in the early stages of the Haiti side of things (it pains me to even type that because we are at over 14 months in the process already and we are in the early part of the Haiti side of things), we have time to prepare and plan (ie raise money). I will also be looking into if it is possible for us to complete this step early-before we get to that stage of the "process". That could save an added trip.
For us, each week long trip to Haiti costs us between $1400-$1800 per person. We could save a few bucks by staying a shorter time. But we sort of figure if we are going to dole out the money for the airfare, we might as well enjoy some time with our boys and help out at the Orphanage.... It seems silly to go that far for less than a week. But that is an option.
Some other families were in the later stages, and this new step has the potential to significantly delay their process. As if 2-4 years was not enough time to process an adoption. Really?!?!
What appears to be true is that this is a certain judge, in a certain court, in a certain city. And yes, that is where our stuff will go. So it is possible that this step will evaporate before we get there. Or more steps could be added. Really?!?!
It also appears to be true that this is a politically motivated change. And that the people who "decided" this step was necessary KNOW ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT THE ADOPTION PROCESS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously-as creative and outside the box I tend to think I cannot come up with a way that I would be able to do this without my husband's willing participation. The money. The letters. The home-study. The BLOOD TESTS. The photos. The tax returns. The multiple sets of finger prints. The psychological evaluation. The medical exams. Did I mention the money? or the BLOOD TESTS?!?! Really?!?!
Honestly, it tells me that the "powers that be" have no idea of what the U.S. requires for parents to be approved to adopt (that is a legal/court process). But worse, it tells me that the "powers that be" have no idea WHAT THEIR OWN COUNTRY REQUIRES.
There are different theories as to why this new step. I am not going to get into the reasons why.
I don't care. I really don't care why.
This is not something I am going to be able to change.
So I've got to let it go, or I will go crazy.
And not the fun, goofy, silly, funny kind of crazy that I love to be.
The lock-me-up-in-a-room-medicate-and-restrain-me-so-I-don't-hurt-myself-or-anyone-else-and-throw-away-the-key-kind of CRAZY.
SNAP. What's that you say?
That's my break from reality.
My psychotic break.
It could happen.
So I've got to let it go.
This is a battle, people.
We need prayer to get it done.
God is not surprised by this.
God is still in control.
We need to hit our knees in prayer.
There is no other option.
Join us, and the other families caught in this "process" and the children growing up in orphanages when there are loving families that CAN and WANT to provide for them.
Care for them.
Pray for them.
Pray for us.
Pray for me.
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood,
but against the rulers, against the authorities,
against the powers of this dark world
and against the spiritual forces of evil
in the heavenly realms.